A: Aging

I’ll be putting up very short excerpts in this April A-Z blogging challenge from Susan Schwartz’s and my book: ‘Aging & Becoming ~ A Reflective Enquiry’. SES is Susan Schwartz, SS is me, Susan Scott and italicised. This is from chapter ‘Aging & Attitude’.

SES: Aging requires attention. It is a different kind of attention because now the flow is more strongly directed inward. This sort of reflection needs the inventive and intuitive. These are all parts of what it takes in being older. There are many ways we can make sense of what was and prepare for what will be. Yet, we delude ourselves with doing rather than being and the outer world supports this. We need the courage to confront the incomplete images and illusions. pg 5

SS: We can take a curious and adventurous attitude towards our experiences while aging. We know that we may live to a really old age, say 97, and we need to be practical about this in many ways, even if practicality is not our strong suit. We are a different generation to our children, parents and grandparents; longevity is on our side mostly. We supposedly have better health care yet we have to remain purposefully responsible for our own health. We have energy now even if physical and psychological energy in different shape and form is lacking at times. pg 9 

Let me keep my distance always,

from those who think they have the answers.

Mary Oliver

36 Comments on A for Aging April A-Z blogging challenge

  1. Hello, Susan!

    I’ve been reflecting on aging as well, so I look forward to reading more of your excerpts. 🙂

    • How lovely to see you here Reeyah thank you. Am going to check your posts NOW… the lack of link-links makes (my) life difficult –

  2. Hi Susan I like the 3 A’s here – Attention, Adventure and Attitude. Attention which is important to be aware of the process of aging; adventure to be open to and expect the best as we keep moving taking responsibility to be healthy and independent as much as possible and a positive attitude to believe in the best. Thanks for your triggers and wishing you the very best for the challenge…. my thanks to SES too 🙂

    • You picked out the A’s beautifully Genevive and elaborated on them so well, thank you! I hope Susan in the US reads your comment. 🙂

  3. A lot to consider in your posts. I seem to be approaching my aging process with curiosity, and with relief as I fret less and less about what others think of me. And as my hair turns silver, my daughter tells me it looks sparkly. I’m ready to take “sparkly” over youth.

    • Thanks for coming by Maggie – sparks can and do fly when we age – your hair is representative of that literally and metaphorically!

  4. I pay a lot more attention to my body messaging than I used to, but still I could probably do better. I know that I am aging, but my mind doesn’t always seem to be completely convinced.

    Arlee Bird
    Tossing It Out

    • That’s a lovely milestone, Chicky – may the next 40 years bring you happy adventuring! Thank you for coming by. Happy A-Z ing to you too, I’ll pop by you now ..:)

  5. At the age of 87, my mum is still alive and in fairly good health, and I have a paternal aunt who lived to the age of 96, so I’m wondering if longevity is in my bloodline.
    Some great thoughts here, Susan! 🙂

    • Thanks for coming by Michelle. An interesting thought about whether one has longevity in the bones … not especially on my side; yes, on my husband’s side …

  6. Love it! A is for Answers and learning, when we’ve aged long enough, that the answers are not what we thought they were or would be.

  7. I remain curious and adventurous, but my physical energy is truly waning. A 99-year-old woman sat in front of me in church today and stood at all the appropriate times: I was so impressed.

    • That woman in church was just plain remarkable Marian. I would have been impressed as well. My physical energy is often at a low ebb, as it is right now. I wonder whether the change of seasons, the dreadful political drama and too much on one’s plate are contributory factors … I wish you well in regaining your strength Marian – try to get some R & R ..

  8. I like the idea of an adventurous attitude towards aging. I’ve never wanted to be the kind of person that fears or laments growing older. I celebrate it, every year. I hope I can still find joy in it when I’m 97. 🙂

  9. Dear Susan, Wonderful, I’m going to enjoy reading your excerpts taken from your fab “Aging & Becoming” book! One of the things I’m noticing more and more as I age is that I seem to be turning away from being a “woman of word” into a “woman of action” as I become more physical in my days and endeavours. My love from walking to gardening has grown ten-fold and to be honest it’s a relief to get off my writing couch and get out there into the beautiful, natural world.

    Hmm, maybe this will be my way of building up my practical side, for as a poet and intuitive soul assistant, I know that my practical side is somewhat underdeveloped … another journey, and a different one I feel, how exciting, how wonderful! Blessings always, Deborah.

    • Thank you Deborah for coming by. Interesting that you say about developing your practical side and getting more into action, a process that parallels mine to some degree 🙂 –

  10. This is so affirming and clarifying with the changes I’m beginning to experience – a more authentic way of being, a more intuitive kind of energy.

  11. I liked the two perspectives you shared on aging, Susan. I so agree about being practical about old age. Just yesterday, I saw a movie where they talked about how it is to be dependent on family when one is really sick and old. I wouldnt like to be dependent on anyone, not even on life support machines! 🙂

    • Thanks Shilpa for coming by – it’s such a tricky thing – dependence and independence. I guess there is a real fear of not being able to depend on family and friends when one IS dependent by virtue of being an old person, and of being a burden – o golly, it’s so tricky ..

  12. Wise words, All of us need to reflect on the reality of aging, but as I watch my 92 year mother grow old, bending over with a sore back, I marvel at what excites her still. She’s writing a novel, working on memoirs, excited about a photo album, etc. and then I listen to a fifteen minute rant on how she lost an important piece of paper, a key, a purse, a letter, a book I gave over months ago. It’s always a mixed bag…..reality sets in, and I realize I see my future.
    “Female Scientists Before Our Time”
    Shells–Tales–Sails

    • I spend a fair bit of time ranting over lost keys, glasses, a book, a wallet and I’m a lot younger that your mother! It drives my husband a bits nuts, but he also loses his cell phone, wallet, keys, important bits of paper .. but your mother does sound great indeed, with a lively curiosity about her and putting her writings down on paper! What a gal! Thanks for coming by Sharon – much appreciate this.

  13. Living to, say, 97, definitely worries me. How does anyone plan for a retirement that lasts 30 years!

    You’re my first A to Z visit! Which makes sense. It was your A to Z last year that inspired me to try it. Have a wonderful weekend.

    • Happy to be your first today Jacqui and thank you! Yes, living to be 97 does not fill me with glee …I hope others (very few so far) pop by your A-Z’s – always so well researched and fascinating! You too have a wonderful weekend 🙂

  14. Hi Susan – aging – sometimes we can’t get off the bandwagon to realise we have aged, or are aging … life goes on – sometimes to our own detriment … though perhaps at that stage we don’t know that. I really need to build in more time for quiet thinking space – less doing, more complementary reflection …

    These posts will be so interesting … and I’m at that time of life –so need to consider … yet hope to live to 97 with my wits in tact – that would suit me!

    Cheers to both of you Susans … and I love the Mary Oliver quote … Hilary

    http://positiveletters.blogspot.co.uk/2017/04/a-is-for-aurochs.html

    Today’s A – Z Challenge 2017 post

    • Yes, sometimes we don’t even realise it, thanks for so saying Hilary! Which is why I think it’s an important topic. Funny, age 97 was an age I chose in the book – with regard to the possibility of living to such an age, with my wits intact! Thanks for coming by! Cheers to you, Susan

  15. Yes, we do need attention and a curious and adventurous attitude toward aging. Aging is amazing as it seems to have a mind of its own rather than listening to my suggestions! I love your post. Have fun with the A – Z Challenge. I look forward to following you.

  16. I’m invoking a curious and adventurous attitude to aging – this is such rich territory to explore. And I love that you’ve chosen this topic of excerpts from your book for this month’s challenge. I’m quite looking forward to your posts. I believe Mary Oliver called this one quite rightly. Happy April Susan.

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