L : Loss

These are very short extracts from Susan E. Schwartz’s and my recently released book “Aging & Becoming ~ A Reflective Enquiry”. Susan E. Schwartz is represented as SES, mine as SS – italicised. From chapter ‘Love, Loss & Belonging’.SES: Yet, even with this despair around loss, rebirth will occur, like the seasons and cycles of everything in nature. From the dead arise the flowering of spring. We are nature. One part of life balances another.  Eventually a smile, when we thought we never would or eat when food had no taste or we move when our limbs are leaden or we create when there was nothing. When we are subsumed by loss there is nothing. Yet, love does return. pg 81

SS: How well you say about love and loss belonging together. The loss must be the harder to bear the more one has loved. How hard is the journey we face. Or is the loss harder when there has not been enough love and now the chance is really gone? pg 82.

There is time for work. And time for love. There is no other time.

Coco Chanel

26 Comments on AtoZ Blogging Challenge L

  1. Without love, loss would be a deep dark hole. Love keeps me grounded in the memories my loved ones have left behind and draws me to the hereafter.
    Thanks for another gem, Susan!

    • Thank you Sharon – I love the saying ‘long life’ to the family and friends of the person who has departed – meaning, that as long as you are alive, you will keep the memory of the departed in your heart ..

  2. Life is filled with loss, but love is always somewhere near if we are willing to accept and share in it. No matter how much I would lose in life, my hope is that I would never lose the capacity to feel love or the willingness to accept it.

    Arlee Bird
    Tossing It Out

    • Thanks for coming by Arlee .. I hope that my heart wouldn’t be hardened to the extent of blocking myself from it being softened ..

  3. Lovely perspective about love and loss. I think the loss would be harder to bear the more one has loved.

  4. That’s a good question: is the loss harder if there has been a greater amount of love, or is it harder if there has been a lack of love and no chance to make up for it now that the loved one has gone?

    • It’s a hard and troubling question Michelle – thank you. Our hearts must be open at all times, or at least we can try or aim for this. For giving and receiving. Sometimes I think it is harder to receive than it is to give – and this is a question we can also ask of ourselves. Thank you for coming by.

  5. To love and to be loved is what each of us crave for, the deepest longing of our lives; some times we are happy to receive back and other times we let go and learn to love without conditions, expecting nothing in return, even though deep in our beings we long to be connected 🙂

  6. Hi Susan – Loss … my uncle had a phrase (for his wife) “Love is All” – which I’ve never forgotten … we became close in the end as I spent a few years ‘helping him through’ when my mother was still alive – we ‘worked’ together through the challenges.

    I like your idea of understanding through prophecy, history and personal experience all intertwine and we can hold threads that will gently guide us through to light and that understanding later on …

    We grow so much as we get older … or we can do – if we allow ourselves … we have to let go – yet we can hold on for our own sake … but not letting it interfere in our future …

    Cheers Hilary

    • Thanks Hilary for your lovely comment and sharing about your uncle’s loss of his wife. What a strong faith he had. May we all remember that ‘love is all’ .. and that those threads, even though they break sometimes, mean something. Letting go and holding on – a lovely paradox!

  7. It’s a comforting thought that love will return even after loss. Is the chance for love ever really gone, though? There’s lots of different love, in different forms and places. Maybe I’m being naive, but I’d like to think there’s always a chance for love, even if one believes otherwise.

    • There are so many forms of love – I’m wracking my brain trying to remember the word that begins with ‘a’ which is love in it’s purest form. I am sure there is always a chance for love; life would not be worth living if it became extinct … thanks for coming by Sara.

  8. I enjoy your choice of words for each day of the challenge whether I reply here or not!
    Yes, indeed, love and loss are two sides of the same coin, just as Tennyson has said.

  9. I’m going to have to think about love and loss. Thinking about the losses in life, did I say enough, did we say it all?

  10. I agree with Susan’s comment that “perhaps longing for love keeps us in life” but I tend toward craving to be loved as much as the people that I loved and lost in my life. It does make me think of the song “Looking for love in all the wrong places.” Then maybe it is not a matter of looking and longing for love, but to be loved for who we are. To let OUR love Bloom so others can see the beauty of our souls.

    • We long for love and to recognised for who we are Gwynn, someone who can give love and who is worthy of being loved in return. And it is a reciprocal process where we see the beauty of the soul of the other and they see it in us too … and a blossoming takes place. Like the gardens we tend, ensuring that the soil is rich in nutrients, watered, being attentive – as we do for our own souls, for the blossoming.

  11. I used to ache for the world’s loss–whatever that was. But I came to realize, as you say, with loss comes love or love blooms from loss–something like that. Wildfires burn everything so life can regenerate.

    I understand loss (I think), but I don’t think that cerebral understanding would get me through everything. Like the death of my husband or children. I just don’t think I could come back from that.

    • I sense that there’s an ongoing existential loss for the world, at least that’s how I see it. A loss of contact with all that is real and true, instead of all that is divided and disconnected.

      I read again recently and paraphrasing that – understanding comes when prophecy, history and personal experience begin to shed light on one another. So cerebral understanding alone I agree Jacqui is insufficient to bear the crosses we do … Thank you for coming by.

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